Holding Back or Difficulty Achieving Orgasm: Anorgasmia & Lingam Massage

I think most people who meet me feel comfortable to discuss their problems if they want to. Sometimes, it takes 2 or 3 visits before they confide in me.

I don't have all the answers, but sometimes it can be helpful to just talk.

Today, I want to tell you about one tiny subset of clients I've seen over the years who rarely discuss their particular Problems. But I know it when I see it.

I'm unsure if they are embarrassed or don't want to admit they have a problem. They might not even acknowledge the Problem to themselves.

MASSAGE for Sexual Dysfunction

It is  a sexual dysfunction with a technical name: Anorgasmia

Even though the person is aroused and has plenty of stimulation, nothing can push them over the edge: they don't achieve orgasm.

This might be frustrating for them, but it might be okay. 

They can feel satisfied with the encounter, and their sexual arousal can decline after. Or they can be frustrated by believing that they are missing out.

I want men with Anorgasmia to know a couple of things:

Firstly, I can do magic, but I can't work miracles. I don't guarantee to make you come.

Secondly, you don't have to try to cover it up... I have seen this often, and it is far more common than you might realise.

How do men attempt to cover up Anorgasmia?

Well, it is obvious they haven't come. 

We can all see that.

But sometimes they'll insist on trying for ages, "Keep going, almost there."

Really it isn't

I know it isn't

Do they know too or are they trying to fool themselves?

Are they hard? Yes, they might well be rock-hard. I tell them to do it themselves, they might have better luck in their own hand.

I also tell them. "Don't worry, not every man has an orgasm. Some can't."

What I'm really saying is, I'm done here. Reality check.

Now, not every man with Anorgasmia keeps going in the hope that a miracle will happen. Many are realistic and tell me they are finished. They know that orgasms can be difficult to achieve.

What Causes of Anorgasmia & Treatments & Cures

There are many reasons for it. Similar to PE and ED, Anorgasmia can be a side effect of medication or a medical condition.

Alternatively, it can often be a result of something in the mind, such as anxiety.

If this is you, you might want to get to the bottom of it: do you orgasm sometimes or never? When did the Problem begin? Can you link it to anything?

WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT ANORGASMIA?

Anorgasmia, the inability to achieve orgasm despite adequate sexual stimulation, can affect people of all genders and can be due to a range of physical, psychological, and medication-related causes. Here’s a breakdown of the most common causes:

1. Psychological Factors

• Anxiety and Stress: Daily life stressors, performance anxiety, or generalized anxiety disorders can impact sexual arousal and the ability to reach orgasm.
• Depression: Depression can reduce libido, energy, and interest in sexual activities, which can lead to anorgasmia.
• Body Image Issues and Low Self-Esteem: Feeling self-conscious or having a negative body image can interfere with sexual satisfaction and orgasm.
• Relationship Issues: Lack of emotional connection, trust issues, or unresolved conflicts can disrupt sexual intimacy and satisfaction.
• Trauma and Abuse History: A history of sexual trauma or abuse can create deep-seated psychological blocks that make achieving orgasm challenging.
• Performance Pressure: Trying too hard to achieve orgasm can lead to heightened pressure and anxiety, which may have the opposite effect.

2. Medical Conditions

• Hormonal Imbalances: Low estrogen levels (in women) or low testosterone (in both men and women) can reduce sexual desire and sensitivity, making orgasm difficult to achieve.
• Diabetes: Uncontrolled diabetes can damage blood vessels and nerves, potentially leading to reduced genital sensation.
• Neurological Disorders: Conditions like multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, and spinal cord injuries can interfere with nerve signals necessary for orgasm.
• Chronic Pain or Illness: Conditions like fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue syndrome can make physical activities, including sex, exhausting and uncomfortable.
• Gynecological or Urological Issues: Conditions affecting reproductive or urinary organs, such as endometriosis or prostate issues, can cause discomfort or numbness during sex.

3. Medication Side Effects

• Antidepressants (SSRIs and SNRIs): Many antidepressants are known to interfere with sexual desire and orgasm.
• Blood Pressure Medications: Certain medications used to manage hypertension, like beta-blockers, can dampen sexual function.
• Antipsychotics: These medications can affect libido and orgasm due to their impact on dopamine, a neurotransmitter involved in pleasure.
• Hormonal Contraceptives: Some forms of hormonal birth control may lower libido and affect orgasm.
• Opioids and Recreational Drugs: Prescription opioids and recreational drug use can lower libido and cause sexual dysfunction.

4. Lifestyle Factors

• Alcohol and Substance Use: Alcohol and drugs can impair arousal and sexual response. While a small amount of alcohol may reduce inhibitions, excess can have the opposite effect.
• Sedentary Lifestyle: Physical fitness can impact circulation and stamina, both of which contribute to sexual satisfaction and response.
• Lack of Sleep: Fatigue from poor sleep can dampen libido and impact sexual responsiveness.

5. Age-Related Factors

• Menopause (in Women): The hormonal changes of menopause, especially the drop in estrogen, can lead to decreased vaginal lubrication and sensitivity, impacting orgasm.
• Andropause (in Men): A gradual reduction in testosterone levels can lower libido and sexual function, making orgasm more challenging.

6. Cultural or Societal Influences

• Religious or Cultural Beliefs: Some people experience internal conflicts if they were raised with strict or negative beliefs about sexuality, leading to guilt or inhibition.
• Sexual Education Gaps: Lack of education about sexual health, anatomy, or self-stimulation techniques may leave some people unaware of how to achieve sexual satisfaction.

7. Physical Incompatibility or Inexperience

• Inadequate Stimulation or Foreplay: Insufficient arousal can make it challenging to reach orgasm, especially in women, who often require extended foreplay.
• Misinformation about Sexual Preferences: Not knowing personal or partner preferences may lead to less satisfying sexual experiences.

Understanding the cause of anorgasmia is key to finding effective treatment, which may involve counseling, lifestyle changes, medical adjustments, or open communication with a partner.