Don't forget the clocks change for British Summer Time.
In other words Time Springs Forwards.
You might lose an hour's sleep???
Or why not just allow yourself some extra sleep this weekend. No pressure! Relax. Set yourself up for summer.
A good many of my clients fall asleep at the end of their session with me. We nneed more relaxation time in this hectic world.
How far would you travel for a sexy erotic massage?
Perhaps it isn't measured in miles but in time.
I'm near the M6 but it can get so snarled up you might be stuck on there for (what seems like) days.
As I'm at Alsager, the A50 and the A34 aren't all that far away. I prefer to stick to the A roads myself.
I don't know how far you would travel but i see clients from far far away.
Often those coming hundreds of miles or more have planed ahead and worked out that I'm on their route from one place to another.
However I see a fair number of people who travel over an hour just to see me, which reminds me of how important and unique is the service that I provide.
I suppose I should say there are very rare occasions I will cancel, which include ill health in the family or being snowed in. It happens sometimes. We can usually predict the weather at least a day in advance.
The brighter sky and longer days may have put you in the mood to try an erotic massage or new sensual touch... it certainly lightens the mood and just makes us feel more cheerful.
Spring is natures time for renewal and new growth so an obvious time to push your boundaries and try something new.
I asked Chatgpt to write a poem about it, but I have to conclude it isn't going to be getting a Poet Laureate position any time soon.
Of all the seasons, spring's the one, Where nature's urges cannot be undone. With a twinkle in the robin's eye, And a blush on the tulip nearby.
In the meadow, where daisies sway, Spring's sensuality comes out to play. The sun caresses the earth's warm skin, As desire ignites with a mischievous grin.
Butterflies flutter in a delicate dance, While rabbits frolic in a passionate trance. The bees buzz with an amorous hum, As springtime seduction begins to drum.
The breeze whispers secrets in the trees, As petals fall like love's guarantees. The scent of blossoms fills the air, A symphony of sensuality beyond compare.
So let's embrace this season's call, And surrender to spring's sensual thrall. For in the dance of life's grand play, Springtime's passion holds sway!
Do all those pink and red hearts get you hot and bothered even when it's close to freezing outside?
Or do they hurt your heart?
Make you feel lonely?
Remind you of the love of your life who isn't around?
There's no better time to come visit me in Cheshire for personal pampering than when the media and shops are promoting romance! In my working world, I promise a complete absence of fluffy, sugary, pink candyfloss themes.
If you are perpetually single - and like it that way - and don't relate to this holiday.
You aren't the only one - you are in good company.
Or divorced
Or widowed
Or bereaved
and grieving
You aren't alone
You always have — you.
The person with you through the good times and the bad, the one who's always there for you: YOU!
I recommend personal self-indulgent pampering, which I'm sure you deserve.
I'm just an ordinary middle aged English woman who has always tried to live a good and honest life - to get by, pay my bills, and look after my family. Who has always wanted to improve the world and help people.
And a person who has faults and weaknesses and has made mistakes - so MANY mistakes.
I'm probably a lot like you!
I wonder about the meaning of it all.
I have some answers but more questions!
When you visit me I'm not going to impose my thoughts and interpretations of the world onto you. My clients come from all walks of life, all nationalities, all religions. Many are business men and leaders in the community. Some are a little bit famous in their particular field.
No one has it all sorted.
We all have doubts, concerns, and fears.
SEXUALITY is a big mystery for some people who have managed great success in many areas of their life.
I meet men who have focused on some areas of life and neglected others.
SEXUALITY often isn't talked about. It's neglected. And it gets wrapped up in shame.
That's a great shame.
We are sexual creatures.
If you are religious then you can be sure God made you that way, gave you sexuality, gave you those urges. And you can be sure your spouse has needs as well.
If you're not religious, perhaps you have a logical mind and don't want to be dominated by "base" desires but the bother you nonetheless.
But we seek pleasure, and comfort, food and safety because these are the things that keep us alive and make life worth living.
We ALL value the things we enjoy.
...perhaps you enjoy sports, or music, or having fun and great food with your friends and family.
...well, your sexuality should be another source or joy.
And if you want that joy in your life but aren't finding it, then perhaps you need help to discover it.
* People benefit from being sexually satisfied.
* And happy satisfied people make for a better society.
People come to me for what I can do with my hands - the 90 minute sexy massage - the thrill, the experiment, the relief.
Some people come because of their problems - especially, most often trouble with erections or orgasms and ejaculation.
But I'm an experienced counsellor with a mountain of knowledge on the subject of sex and sexuality and I'm happy to talk and listen in confidence.
Ten years ago I wrote this blog about Tantric Massage & spirituality. Today I notice a typo in it! Oh well.
I pencil in 2 hours for each session because my clients are in my place for 2 hours on average. The actual full body massage is 90 minutes.
I've done it thousands of times so I can be certain 90 minutes is a good amount of time and I tell my clients that's what they should expect. I have done longer and shorter sessions in the past, so experience tells me 90 minutes is best for the way I work, and it suits most clients.
I'm sure it is possible. But it is not something I want to offer.
I think people who ask for A QUICKIE are looking for something else. They are looking for hand relief and perhaps they are on a limited budget.
But that's not what I'm offering.
One Hour Lingam Massage
Some people say they only have an hour to spare. An hour isn't long enough. And the service I offer isn't something you squeeze into a spare hour in a busy day. You want to have free time after your session, not rush back to work.
A hand job is a part of it but it isn't the whole of it.
It's like you can go to the Chip Shop and buy a bag of chips but in a restaurant chips would be the side order and you'd spend a longer amount of time enjoying all of the flavours and textures building up to a delicious pudding.
Actually, perhaps a cake would have been a better example than chips. You can go to a shop and just buy cake. or you can go to a restaurant and eat a meal which costs more, takes longer, and satisfies you in a different way.
You will find people offering a 30 minute or 1 hour sexy massage/ tantric massage/ or lingam massage. And they may well offer a wonderful service. But it will not be the same thing.
Where are you? I'm here, where are you?
I'm located on the geographical border of Staffordshire and Cheshire, which puts me within reach of 2 regions: The West Midlands and The North West.
It's tricky. Say you're in the North West and people think Manchester, or Birmingham for the West Midlands. I'm not in either of those cities and it's a fair trek from both of them. But I do get visitors regularly from: Wigan, Liverpool, Wolverhampton, Manchester, Stoke-on-Trent, and Stafford.
Guys travel to see me and will work me in to their route when they travel for business.
I don't travel far but I do have to travel to work so I won't be working when we're snowed in and I don't want to encourage you to take to the roads then either.
I say many clients who are having penis problems either and ask me if lingam massage will help.
Apart from a straight yes or no there are many answers I could opt for and the two most honest ones are:
a) it might do, it all depends on the cause
b) you should see a doctor.
but there are also these thoughts:
c) I don't know but it can't hurt to try!
d) Why not have fun trying?
While I have seen people with many different issues and concerns the two most common are:
First, let's make sure you understand a few of the basics:
1. Even if you can't get an erection things can still feel great. You can still have an orgasm.
2. Orgasm and ejaculation aren't the same thing. Some men have orgasms without ejaculating.
3. Whatever is going on in your mind can have an impact on performance. If may be that you need to relax and overcome your mental block. It sounds easy, but it isn't.
4. Problems might be a symptom of a medical issue. You should see a doctor if this persists.
Some clients have a partner but come to visit me to test out how their body reacts with someone else away from the pressure to give a great performance.
It is worth noting that as I stay clothed and only use hands many clients feel very safe with me and do not feel they are "cheating". Many clients have also discussed their visit to me with their partners.
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Regular or frequent lingam massage treatment may also help some people - this doesn't have to be visiting a service provider but can include Do It Yourself.
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Unfortunately may people are weighed down with guilt and shame when it comes to the subject of sex or masturbation.
I have seen clients who have not had any sexual outlet for years. They want sex, but because they don't have a willing partner they are celibate.
Celibacy is perfectly okay for some people some of the time - if it suits you that's great. But it stands to reason that if a part of your body isn't used for a long time it isn't going to perform like an athlete when it is called upon to do a job after months or years of neglect.
If you sat in a chair for a year do you think you'd be able to get up and walk a mile one day?
Sexual pleasure is okay.
It is natural.
It is healthy.
No one should feel pressured into sex or masturbation, but people should feel okay about enjoying these things - in private - obviously!
We have two sayings:
* use if or lose it
* practice makes perfect.
So, using that part of your body should be considered as part of your regular exercise regime and you can exercise at home alone. I don't recommend you do this in a public gym!
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Now, one last thing about how visiting me might help some clients.
For some people it is not the massage itself but the chance to talk with someone - a complete stranger outside of your normal life - about these things. Some of my clients are receiving medical care, and have supportive partners and therapists but it can be good to just talk to someone else. I can't promise all tantric massage therapists will provide a good ear or have the time to talk but I certainly do my best.
Most of the time I will have spare time between sessions to talk (and there is no time limit and no extra charge) but occasionally I'll be pressed for time so if you know you'd like extra talking time it is always worth letting me know in an email message when you make the booking.
