The Law & Sex Work in the Irish Republic

 I shudder to think of the consequences if they bring in the Nordic Model here - it is a law making it illegal to pay for sexual services. Everything I've read and based on all my experience, that law is bad for women and it's bad for men.

If they brought it in here my type of erotic massage might become illegal: it will be OK for me to offer it but it MIGHT not be OK for you to pay for it. It's a bit unclear whether a sensual massage would fall into the wrong category.

But the law has far wider implications.

In the countries where it has been implemented they have also banned advertising sexual services. So would you be able to find my adverts?

If I can't advertise in a cost effective way it would put me out of business.

And when I say cost effective - I mean CHEAP. I only see a few clients a week so I don't have a huge advertising budget.

Pretty much these legal crackdowns on sex work put independent women like myself out of business. But criminal gangs who run a 24 hour business outside the law and already criminals -- Pimps, brothels, street soliciting -- these things are already illegal and will continue to exist.

REVIEW of the Law on Sex Work in Ireland

In Ireland where they brought in this ridiculous Nordic Model there is supposed to be a review of how it it going by the Department of Justice.

Minister for Justice, McEntee said: 

it is “generally recognised that prostitution is inherently exploitative of vulnerable persons, mainly women and girls, and that many people are forced into prostitution through trafficking, drug addiction, homelessness and poverty”.

“A key purpose for the 2017 Sexual Offences Act was to provide additional protection to persons involved in prostitution, especially vulnerable persons and victims of human trafficking.

“It allows those engaged in prostitution to provide information to Gardaí, for instance if they were subjected to violence by clients, without fear of prosecution for selling sexual services.”

Fine words.

But look again at the last paragraph: 

in the UK sex workers can and do call the police when threatened with violence. Sex work is legal here. Of course victims of violence or threats should NOT be prosecuted. It isn't difficult to do the right thing.

The second paragraph: 

additional protection is a good thing, but is this the way to do it? The best thing would be to consult with groups of actual sex workers to come up with strategies for their protection.

And the first paragraph:   

prostitution is inherently exploitative of vulnerable persons -- no! I don't agree. This is simply not true.

Also in that paragraph: many people are forced into prostitution through trafficking, drug addiction, homelessness and poverty.

There are ways to tackle these route causes - drug addiction and poverty, for example. Furthermore, poverty forces people into many jobs and situations that they don't want to be in. Sex work is a valid choice, it can be well paid with hours to suit. It's a way for many women to avoid poverty and do work that fits in with childcare.

I have included the Justice Minister's words because it should be clear that the people who have control of the laws about prostitution and control over the review of such laws have a biased view and little real understanding of sex work.

S*x Work isn't anything like it's portrayed in Hollywood movies. It isn't TAKEN.

Sex Workers In Ireland

Sex workers in Ireland are concerned about the review process and are calling for a new fresh review to begin because the current review has been conducted over many many years and without much engagements from actual sex workers.

If you keep abreast of the news from around the world you will see this is a common problem. 

Do gooders* are out there campaigning to change laws to protect women and children from the downsides of sex work but without actually listening to the people who work as sex workers! You couldn't make it up.

*(((Do gooders? Or are they really religious evangelists with an anti-sex agenda????))) 

As ever, I should say many MEN are also sex workers. In the UK they might make up about 25% of sex workers, it's difficult to be certain of the numbers. 

 

Holding Back or Difficulty Achieving Orgasm: Anorgasmia & Lingam Massage

I think most people who meet me feel comfortable to discuss their problems if they want to. Sometimes, it takes 2 or 3 visits before they confide in me.

I don't have all the answers, but sometimes it can be helpful to just talk.

Today, I want to tell you about one tiny subset of clients I've seen over the years who rarely discuss their particular Problems. But I know it when I see it.

I'm unsure if they are embarrassed or don't want to admit they have a problem. They might not even acknowledge the Problem to themselves.

MASSAGE for Sexual Dysfunction

It is  a sexual dysfunction with a technical name: Anorgasmia

Even though the person is aroused and has plenty of stimulation, nothing can push them over the edge: they don't achieve orgasm.

This might be frustrating for them, but it might be okay. 

They can feel satisfied with the encounter, and their sexual arousal can decline after. Or they can be frustrated by believing that they are missing out.

I want men with Anorgasmia to know a couple of things:

Firstly, I can do magic, but I can't work miracles. I don't guarantee to make you come.

Secondly, you don't have to try to cover it up... I have seen this often, and it is far more common than you might realise.

How do men attempt to cover up Anorgasmia?

Well, it is obvious they haven't come. 

We can all see that.

But sometimes they'll insist on trying for ages, "Keep going, almost there."

Really it isn't

I know it isn't

Do they know too or are they trying to fool themselves?

Are they hard? Yes, they might well be rock-hard. I tell them to do it themselves, they might have better luck in their own hand.

I also tell them. "Don't worry, not every man has an orgasm. Some can't."

What I'm really saying is, I'm done here. Reality check.

Now, not every man with Anorgasmia keeps going in the hope that a miracle will happen. Many are realistic and tell me they are finished. They know that orgasms can be difficult to achieve.

What Causes of Anorgasmia & Treatments & Cures

There are many reasons for it. Similar to PE and ED, Anorgasmia can be a side effect of medication or a medical condition.

Alternatively, it can often be a result of something in the mind, such as anxiety.

If this is you, you might want to get to the bottom of it: do you orgasm sometimes or never? When did the Problem begin? Can you link it to anything?

WANT TO KNOW MORE ABOUT ANORGASMIA?

Anorgasmia, the inability to achieve orgasm despite adequate sexual stimulation, can affect people of all genders and can be due to a range of physical, psychological, and medication-related causes. Here’s a breakdown of the most common causes:

1. Psychological Factors

• Anxiety and Stress: Daily life stressors, performance anxiety, or generalized anxiety disorders can impact sexual arousal and the ability to reach orgasm.
• Depression: Depression can reduce libido, energy, and interest in sexual activities, which can lead to anorgasmia.
• Body Image Issues and Low Self-Esteem: Feeling self-conscious or having a negative body image can interfere with sexual satisfaction and orgasm.
• Relationship Issues: Lack of emotional connection, trust issues, or unresolved conflicts can disrupt sexual intimacy and satisfaction.
• Trauma and Abuse History: A history of sexual trauma or abuse can create deep-seated psychological blocks that make achieving orgasm challenging.
• Performance Pressure: Trying too hard to achieve orgasm can lead to heightened pressure and anxiety, which may have the opposite effect.

2. Medical Conditions

• Hormonal Imbalances: Low estrogen levels (in women) or low testosterone (in both men and women) can reduce sexual desire and sensitivity, making orgasm difficult to achieve.
• Diabetes: Uncontrolled diabetes can damage blood vessels and nerves, potentially leading to reduced genital sensation.
• Neurological Disorders: Conditions like multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, and spinal cord injuries can interfere with nerve signals necessary for orgasm.
• Chronic Pain or Illness: Conditions like fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue syndrome can make physical activities, including sex, exhausting and uncomfortable.
• Gynecological or Urological Issues: Conditions affecting reproductive or urinary organs, such as endometriosis or prostate issues, can cause discomfort or numbness during sex.

3. Medication Side Effects

• Antidepressants (SSRIs and SNRIs): Many antidepressants are known to interfere with sexual desire and orgasm.
• Blood Pressure Medications: Certain medications used to manage hypertension, like beta-blockers, can dampen sexual function.
• Antipsychotics: These medications can affect libido and orgasm due to their impact on dopamine, a neurotransmitter involved in pleasure.
• Hormonal Contraceptives: Some forms of hormonal birth control may lower libido and affect orgasm.
• Opioids and Recreational Drugs: Prescription opioids and recreational drug use can lower libido and cause sexual dysfunction.

4. Lifestyle Factors

• Alcohol and Substance Use: Alcohol and drugs can impair arousal and sexual response. While a small amount of alcohol may reduce inhibitions, excess can have the opposite effect.
• Sedentary Lifestyle: Physical fitness can impact circulation and stamina, both of which contribute to sexual satisfaction and response.
• Lack of Sleep: Fatigue from poor sleep can dampen libido and impact sexual responsiveness.

5. Age-Related Factors

• Menopause (in Women): The hormonal changes of menopause, especially the drop in estrogen, can lead to decreased vaginal lubrication and sensitivity, impacting orgasm.
• Andropause (in Men): A gradual reduction in testosterone levels can lower libido and sexual function, making orgasm more challenging.

6. Cultural or Societal Influences

• Religious or Cultural Beliefs: Some people experience internal conflicts if they were raised with strict or negative beliefs about sexuality, leading to guilt or inhibition.
• Sexual Education Gaps: Lack of education about sexual health, anatomy, or self-stimulation techniques may leave some people unaware of how to achieve sexual satisfaction.

7. Physical Incompatibility or Inexperience

• Inadequate Stimulation or Foreplay: Insufficient arousal can make it challenging to reach orgasm, especially in women, who often require extended foreplay.
• Misinformation about Sexual Preferences: Not knowing personal or partner preferences may lead to less satisfying sexual experiences.

Understanding the cause of anorgasmia is key to finding effective treatment, which may involve counseling, lifestyle changes, medical adjustments, or open communication with a partner.

Male Orgasms Don't Require An Erection

 If only more people knew erections and orgasms don't have to go together then the world might be a better place.

Women certainly don't need a man with a hardon for us to have an orgasm!

But a man doesn't need to be standing upright either - and a lot of people don't know this.

The penis should be thoroughly researched so grab the nearest one to hand (if it is legal to do so) and get investigating.

Speaking of researching orgasms without blood-filled rods, here's an article on orgasm after prostate surgerynull.