Erections and Orgasms After Prostate Removal

The news was a shock, and going through the procedure was tough. Your first information point should be the medical team that looks after you.

But of course, you want to talk to me about it.

Lots of men do.

I see them before and after the operation - soon after and years after.

Things You Should Know About Sex, Erections, And Orgasms After a Prostatectomy

I see men who come to me after having this major life-changing surgery with so many questions. Here's what I want you to know.

1. It does not have to be the end of your sex life.
2. You might have erections again, but give it time. Expect a slow recovery.
3. But you have to work at that recovery - use it- stimulate it - don't neglect it and expect it to work in 3 years' time (honestly, I met men who do this).
4. You can have orgasms without erections - it is incredible to me how many men don't know this.

I regularly see men who orgasm without an erection - it isn't unusual.

Your Partner - You can still have sexy times and pleasure your partner without an erection - it's time to get imaginative, and your partner will love it! At the very least, you should be using your mouth and your fingers as a big part of your sex life with your life-long love partner.

Your Pleasure -- It might be time to learn new things about your body as you enter this new phase in your life. But it isn't over. It's an exciting new journey with lots of good and amazing times ahead.

My last blog was on the subject of erectile dysfunction, you might want to take a look at it.

On the subject of post-prostate:

I also wrote about it on my website blog click here to be taken there.

Massage And Erectile Disfunction

If there is one issue that is the top of the list of concerns for my clients it is erectile disfunction (EDF) of one form or another,

Yes, there are many different forms. 

• Some have had a prostate operation and have EDF as a side effect.
• Some men can't get hard.
• Some can't stay hard for long.
• Some wish they got harder...
• Some worry too much about their performance in the bedroom.
• Some wish they got bigger... perhaps that's another story.

Where there's a problem there is a Snake-Oil Salesman ready to sell you an (expensive) FAST miracle cure.

Speaking of oil, you may have heard massage or oil or massage with oil will solve all your problems.

There is NO scientific evidence to support the claim that any kind of oil can cure erectile dysfunction (ED). Just do not waste your time with "essential oils" to harden your rod....

Having said that, you want to get to and treat the root cause of your problem and oils might help with that -- even if it's a placebo effect.

Forget oils.

ED is a complex condition with various potential causes including physiological, psychological, and lifestyle factors. Treatment typically involves addressing underlying health issues, lifestyle changes, and sometimes medications or other medical interventions.

• Sometimes it really is all in the mind. 
• And another thing can be if you don't lose it you use it.  

but don't leave it to chance... the symptoms might be due to medical reasons that can be treated.

If you're experiencing ED, it's important to consult with a healthcare professional - that's what I'm going to tell you when I meet you.

Nevertheless, many clients are helped by seeing me first, knowing they can talk to me in confidence about their myriad concerns.

I want to set your mind at rest.

The chances are it's NO BIG DEAL [sorry about the pun] it's temporary and can be resolved.

Some clients have visited me: 

• to test whether their EDF issues are something they only experience with their current partner.
• due to concerns about being intimate with a new person when they start dating after a long period of celibacy
• are already being treated for the health condition that causes EDF
• are on medicine that causes EDF
• They have recently had an operation related to their EDF.

Whatever your issue, it isn't unique.

I can't cure the problem but 

I may be able to set your mind at rest and

I am someone to talk to about your concerns.

Feeling Guilty About Sexuality? Embrace nature and loving touch!

It makes no sense to feel guilty about normal physical urges that don't harm anyone else.

Unfortunately, we live in a repressive society that makes people feel guilty for the way their bodies and minds naturally work.

Sensitive nerve endings cover our bodies.

Our skin responds to touch -- it craves it.

The pandemic taught us how important human connection is - reaching out for physical comfort in person.

People shouldn't be lonely and isolated when there is no reason for it.

What if you don't have a spouse? Does that mean you should suppress your natural desires and resign yourself to loneliness? 

No! 

Companionship and physical intimacy shouldn't be reserved solely for those in long term romantic relationships. 

Human beings are inherently social creatures, and we all crave connection in one form or another.

Fortunately, there are countless ways to fulfill our need for human interaction and physical touch.

Friends, family, and platonic relationships can provide immense emotional support and physical comfort. Hugs, cuddles, and friendly gestures are not exclusive to romantic partners—they are expressions of human connection that can be shared among friends, acquaintances, and even strangers.

Moreover, society's obsession with romantic love as the ultimate source of fulfillment overlooks the richness of other types of relationships. Platonic love, self-love, and community bonds are valuable and rewarding. 

But sometimes, all your friends, family, and social groups aren't enough and cannot give you what you need.

Instead of feeling guilty or ashamed for our natural desires, we should embrace them as part of our humanity. 

Prioritize well-being and happiness without succumbing to societal pressures or judgment. After all, life is too short to deny the joy of human connection and the pleasures of physical touch.

Of course, - I am not advocating you break the shackles and commit crimes - if your urges do involve harming others or do involve something criminal in your location, then seek some other kind of help.