Sexy Valentines Day for Single Older Men

 Do all those pink and red hearts get you hot and bothered even when it's close to freezing outside?

Or do they hurt your heart?

Make you feel lonely?

Remind you of the love of your life who isn't around?

There's no better time to come visit me in Cheshire for personal pampering than when the media and shops are promoting romance! In my working world, I promise a complete absence of fluffy, sugary, pink candyfloss themes.

If you are perpetually single - and like it that way - and don't relate to this holiday.

You aren't the only one - you are in good company.

Or divorced

Or widowed

Or bereaved 

and grieving

You aren't alone

You always have — you.

The person with you through the good times and the bad, the one who's always there for you: YOU!

I recommend personal self-indulgent pampering, which I'm sure you deserve.

I am no Goddess: Erotic Massage & The Spirit & Religion

I'm just an ordinary middle aged English woman who has always tried to live a good and honest life - to get by, pay my bills, and look after my family. Who has always wanted to improve the world and help people. 

And a person who has faults and weaknesses and has made mistakes - so MANY mistakes.

I'm probably a lot like you!

I wonder about the meaning of it all.

I have some answers but more questions!

When you visit me I'm not going to impose my thoughts and interpretations of the world onto you. My clients come from all walks of life, all nationalities, all religions. Many are business men and leaders in the community. Some are a little bit famous in their particular field.

No one has it all sorted.

We all have doubts, concerns, and fears.

SEXUALITY is a big mystery for some people who have managed great success in many areas of their life.

I meet men who have focused on some areas of life and neglected others.

SEXUALITY often isn't talked about. It's neglected. And it gets wrapped up in shame.

That's a great shame.

We are sexual creatures.

If you are religious then you can be sure God made you that way, gave you sexuality, gave you those urges. And you can be sure your spouse has needs as well.

If you're not religious, perhaps you have a logical mind and don't want to be dominated by "base" desires but the bother you nonetheless. 

But we seek pleasure, and comfort, food and safety because these are the things that keep us alive and make life worth living. 

We ALL value the things we enjoy.

...perhaps you enjoy sports, or music, or having fun and great food with your friends and family. 

...well, your sexuality should be another source or joy.

And if you want that joy in your life but aren't finding it, then perhaps you need help to discover it.

* People benefit from being sexually satisfied. 

* And happy satisfied people make for a better society.

People come to me for what I can do with my hands - the 90 minute sexy massage - the thrill, the experiment, the relief.

Some people come because of their problems - especially, most often trouble with erections or orgasms and ejaculation.

But I'm an experienced counsellor with a mountain of knowledge on the subject of sex and sexuality and I'm happy to talk and listen in confidence.

Ten years ago I wrote this blog about Tantric Massage & spirituality. Today I notice a typo in it! Oh well.

Have You Got the Time for A Tantric Massage?

I pencil in 2 hours for each session because my clients are in my place for 2 hours on average. The actual full body massage is 90 minutes. 

I've done it thousands of times so I can be certain 90 minutes is a good amount of time and I tell my clients that's what they should expect. I have done longer and shorter sessions in the past, so experience tells me 90 minutes is best for the way I work, and it suits most clients.

Looking for a Quick Tantric Session?

I'm sure it is possible. But it is not something I want to offer.

I think people who ask for A QUICKIE are looking for something else. They are looking for hand relief and perhaps they are on a limited budget. 

But that's not what I'm offering.

One Hour Lingam Massage

Some people say they only have an hour to spare. An hour isn't long enough. And the service I offer isn't something you squeeze into a spare hour in a busy day. You want to have free time after your session, not rush back to work.

30 minutes! Do You Just want a Hand Job?

A hand job is a part of it but it isn't the whole of it. 

It's like you can go to the Chip Shop and buy a bag of chips but in a restaurant chips would be the side order and you'd spend a longer amount of time enjoying all of the flavours and textures building up to a delicious pudding.

Actually, perhaps a cake would have been a better example than chips. You can go to a shop and just buy cake. or you can go to a restaurant and eat a meal which costs more, takes longer, and satisfies you in a different way.

You will find people offering a 30 minute or 1 hour sexy massage/ tantric massage/ or lingam massage. And they may well offer a wonderful service. But it will not be the same thing.